Parents and Email
Parents, especially moms, are good for life advice and annoying chain emails. Today I received both from my mom. She sent the following email to me:
There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don’t. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.
I’m supposed to pick 8 women who have touched my life and who I think might participate. Please send this back to me. Remember to just read the quotation. That’s all you have to do. There is nothing attached. Just send this to 8 women you would like to sit at your table and let me know what happens on the 4th day. Thank you!!
“Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.”
Surround Yourself with Quality People
While mom’s email was another annoying chain email (which has not been popular since 1999), the advice was clear and precise. When you surround yourself with quality people, then you enjoy life more. As we get older this seems to be even truer than before. We are no longer forced into classrooms or groups setup by institutions such as school, so we have the freedom to filter people as we wish.
Having all of that freedom is harder than you’d think it is. It forces you to reflect upon your personal values and what is most important to you at this point in your life. It’s so rare that someone asks you a question like, “what do you value most in this world?”
Start by checking in with yourself once a week. Take a walk, meditate, go to the gym, or do something else that helps you to clear your mind; and then check in with yourself. Reflect on the relationships in your life – love, friends, family, roommates, coworkers. Who makes you the most happy? Who makes you the most miserable? Why?