What Drives You?

Being strong and fearless isn’t enough to help me reach my goals. It is important to remind myself everyday why I am driving towards this larger goal of a music venue. Why do I want this dream?

There are days when I am sick, weak or just tired. In those moments it’s difficult to focus, and sometimes I just want to lay in bed to avoid everything. No matter what I go through, at some point of the day I take 5 minutes to imagine the happy future that I want. Everyone has their own way of doing this.  For me, it requires a quiet place that is comfortable where I can have some uninterrupted time alone. After getting comfortable, I close my eyes and then go into a meditative state. Once there, I can see the possibilities of my future. It is not a fantasy. This is my future. I can get to the place that I see in my mind. For me, I saw this future quickly and quite clearly; but not everyone can easily access their subconscious in this way. Find a way to see your future self – draw it, write it, think it, talk about it. Do whatever it takes for you to reach that place.

It’s so important to be relaxed during this process. Otherwise you cannot see your best future self  clearly. Every time you step into this place it will strengthen your drive. It will serve as a reminder of why you want to achieve that dream or goal.

Sunset in Austin, TX

Part of what drives me towards my dream are my values – helping people, sharing music and creating a community around the arts. I want to make a difference in peoples’ lives with what I do everyday.

So what drives you towards your goals?


Becoming Fearless


This week we had the kick off of Lent. During the 40 days leading up to Easter we are asked to fast or abstain from luxuries. Some people give up eating during the daylight hours, others give up meat on Fridays, but most of us try to give up something that we can and should do without. It is important that one commits to fasting during Lent, otherwise it is a useless practice.

The thing that I abused most in 2012 was fear. There were so many instances where I let fears slow me down and prevent my growth. For these reasons, I am giving up fear for Lent.

Instead of letting fear stop me, I will face it head on. How does one get past fear?

First – Live in the now, one minute at a time, rather than worrying about tomorrow.

Second – Ask myself what’s the worst that could happen. What is the real potential outcome?
Third – Deep breaths. Circular breathing helps to reduce stress and allows the brain to focus.

Fourth – Understand why I feel fear, and resolving to move past it.

Fifth – Realize that failure is not the end of the world.

A list of 33 ways to overcome fear

Be Brave and Make a Plan

Planning for the future can be both exciting and frightening. Maybe I am biased,  but I think it is slightly harder for women than it is for men. This, of course, is a broad blanket statement, but hear me out first.

I grew up in a family where my father brought home the paychecks and my mother planned how it was spent – mortgage, school, groceries, etc. This was a typical family setup among many people that I knew for a long time. Part of my parents’ partnership with each other was this balance. My mom had to be the one really thinking about the future and making recommendations to dad about different things, like family trips and medical expenses. She had to really believe in the things that she could foresee being important.

My parents worked hard in this team dynamic to give us kids a good life. Now that I am the adult making my own plans and thinking about my future it’s a new challenge, and I want to be happy. I can budget for groceries or trips to visit my sisters in New York. But when it comes to the bigger life planning, I hesitate and question my ideas. Will this concept be successful? Will I wake up a total failure with no money left for me to plan with?

Rather than constantly question myself, I have decided to take a leap of faith and move forward. I will Be Brave and Plan. I admit that I want.more than the 9-5 job. I moved to Austin in pursuit of a dream, and I must take action now.

The first step for me is the executive summary. I will be finishing that over the weekend, so you can read a sneak peak of it this coming week. To achieve great success in your passion it’s vital to take your steps carefully, rather than running forward full force. I will make at least one goal towards completing this refined business plan each week.

Any tips on writing a strong executive summary are welcome.

Goals Update


January 2013 is over, so how am I doing so far?

  • Post 2 blogs per week – This is good, but I think it is okay to reduce to once per week. Instead, I will promise to journal about my professional growth and accomplishments 2-3 times per week.
  • Create a daily to-do list and follow it – Hit or miss. I am definitely improving though. Each Sunday night I look at my printed calendar and add reminders for the week into my phone.
  • Find a suitable mentor – I think this goal has changed. I may just need a voice teacher…not sure.
  • Become a dedicated volunteer – I LOVE going to clubGEN every week. The girls are amazing and inspiring.

CeoCandi, taking care of business

  • Connect with one new person each month – This month I connected with 4 new people! Follow-up to happen next week 🙂
  • Establish a communications plan to keep up with all of my professional contacts – I need to get this started.
  • Join a brain trust – I have spoken with a new prospects about developing a new group. This will continue to grow and develop in February. I think it will come to fruition in March.
  • Formulate a flexible career plan – This is a difficult one. First I needed some clairty on what my end goal was. Now that I have it, I can begin to create a plan. More to come.
  • Accountability – Blogging, journaling and making specific appointments have helped tremendously.
  • Blocking the negative thoughts about my own abilities – I’m improving on this forefront. There is a definitely pink and happy chi going on with me more recently.
  • 10 minutes of vocal practice each morning – This week I practiced 3 out of the 5 days. I’ll continue to create reminders around the importance of practice to build it into my routine.

I’m open to suggestions. Let me know if you think there are other things I should be doing to reach these goals.

Everything starts from needs or desires

Everything starts from needs or desires that become goals. In order to achieve their goals people frame intentions that lead to actions. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)